By: Abigail Mavis Xatse (Ghana) Number: +233 26 213 4583 Date: 9th April. 2026
Why this theme? The increasing statistics of cheating in relationships are disturbing these days, with both husbands and wives baring the same dispositions. This article will reflect the abnormalities in relationships and give meaning to the purpose of relationships leading to marriage. This first reflection will be focused more on the husbands or the males.
One most common excuse for infidelity among men is that men have higher sex drives than women and their wives are unable to meet these desires. But in recent times, most often than not, most people are intimate during courtship time before marrying. Take a look at your fiancée’s libido level. Are you not aware she can’t match your drive? Is the solution getting an answer outside? What have you done to increase her desires for you? When you are in a hurry walking somewhere and you are holding a child’s hand. Do you leave the child on the way with complains that the child is not walking fast? I am sure on a normal note you will either carry the child in your arms or back him/her. When your wive’s libido cannot match your drive level, can you do something for her to come up or you leave her at the middle of the marriage and walk away from her???
Another factor is the lack of commitment by wives. Wives sometimes do not make their relationship romantic enough. Another excuse too is that the wives nag them too much, making the “side chick place,” a safe haven. Why would she be asking for one or two things for days and months and the man will insist he doesn’t have but will provide effortlessly for the side chick? If he fails and the side chick should threaten to tell his wife, you will see them go the breadth and length of the world to provide it for them but you will see that same man ignore necessities at home making the wife complain and turn into a nagger. In which case you will see them brand it that they want their peace of mind.
We must all be fully aware of the institution of marriage. The institution calls for one man one woman; it is not like the occult where you enter before getting to know the rules. In this case you know the ground rules especially the fact that you are to stick with one person. Even those suffering from any form of abuse, there are always a legal way out. Even our Muslim brothers, who have the liberty of marrying up to five wives, have a limit and guess what; some are even running away from it “mpo” because of the responsibilities attached.
Really it baffles me some reasons you will hear these days as the reasons for the cheating. We must take the institution of marriage with much attention and understand that both parties in the institution all have a critical and monumental role in the security and productive growth of the marriage.
Look out for my next article which will be focusing more on women.
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